My kids have almost flown the coop. Let’s admit it, some days I wish they would accelerate the process but all days, I want the best for them in every way possible.
My daughter is on the brink of a budding relationship. Her young man is fine in every way. Just yesterday I heard her gripe that he did not come to visit just her, he came to visit us all. To us, it was a fine compliment that I will never forget.
I am uncertain what the future holds but my heart has gained a son.
Scott Mann posted this on Facebook about his mother-in-law. Here’s what Scott wrote: “This, friends, is what greatness looks like in a quiet moment.”
This is Sharon, my mother-in-law.
She taught me it’s important work to see someone for who they are and not what you expect.
When I first met my mother-in-law I had a hard time understanding her thick south Virginia accent. And she seemed a little bossy in that southern passive aggressive polite way.
But I knew she was important to the love of my life, so I accepted her grudgingly as some of us do when family is forced on us. After 5 years I still didn’t really know her.
When my wife got leukemia at 30. When our world was shattered and changed forever, Sharon very quietly and very firmly stepped into the role she was born for.
She moved, with her dependent Vietnam vet husband, into our house and became Michele’s caretaker too.
Over the last two years she bought most of the groceries, cooked almost every meal, did most of the laundry and cleaning, drove both dependents to almost every one of the 300+ doctor appointments, sorted tens of thousands of pills, and made sure they were all taken on time at every hour every day. And she did this when she herself was diagnosed with cancer 6 months ago. When she was getting a mastectomy. When she is going through chemo.
She hums when she works. She talks to herself when there’s no one to listen, and she goes about every day with humility and grace.
I took this photo before I left work this morning. She didn’t know I was there.
This, friends, is what greatness looks like in a quiet moment. Waiting on oatmeal to cook for her daughter for the 300th time since she got sick.
Not everyone gets to have a real-world superhero in their lives. And for this I am filled with gratitude every day.
We must never forget that the world, as it is, is not a permanent reality, but is a temporary product of our choices as creators. We are sitting on top of a vast cultural and historical pyramid of accumulated misconceptions, lies and myths, built one on top of the other. Every symbol, word, concept, discipline and field is only a temporary rest stop on the highway of discovery. The highway of human possibility extends on forever into unknown territories, which have not yet been imagined. There are possibilities that exist beyond our present “knowing”, and to see those possibilities, we must abandon that which makes us feel safe. Discovery requires courage and acceptance that we are not in control, and that the future is uncertain. The world is starving for original and decisive leadership. The world is starving for leaders who are not afraid to dismantle the sacred and precious, yet wretched beliefs, which hold us as prisoners of the past.⚜
The Truth will set you free
We all desire a safer and better world; a world with more harmony and goodwill. All people want to be safe and feel loved unconditionally. The ethos in the world is changing before our eyes, and the time has come for us to take responsibility for one another. As the master creators on this planet, we can improve conditions for all and learn greater respect for others. It is a responsibility for those that see and have the understanding and choose to not be bridled by fear, to step forward and lead the way. And how does one lead? We lead by doing; we lead by being. The only way is to teach with love, which requires looking beyond what seems, and remembering we create with our judgements.⚜
Everyone who has an abiding reverence for the sanctity of life wants to promote as much non-violence and safety for people as possible. We are the world, both the good and the bad. We are responsible for what we are creating. Even the cultural momentum which is sculpting us through propaganda and advertising was first our creation. It comes from us, and it is us. The full mantle of responsibility is on our shoulders, and the great thing about life — the most magnificent thing about being these sentient human beings – is that we have been given the power of choice. That is one thing that we do have is the power to choose. We can change the world one thought at a time, one child at a time, one family at a time, one community at a time, one city, one state and one country at a time. Let the change begin with our choices this very moment. You are creating through your choices, even now. Choose wisely! ⚜